mild mannered updates

I saw Green Lantern last week. Blake Lively is one of the hottest girls I've ever seen.

Hannah is still in my life. I'm in love with her. I don't know that she loves me back. I think she might. I think she thinks of me as very special. But I don't know it.

A part of me will be suspicious and will hate her until she tells me not to.

Work is ever-grueling. Ever draining. Ever stressful. There's always something more to do. I wonder if it will ever change until I throw it all away. Maybe that's the only answer.

I am thoughtful today, having shared my story with a classroom of noobs, having inspired a new set of working class folk (even if only a half dozen at best) into joining the middle class, even if they were already on that path, even if I was just a little token in that direction...

I miss Kait today. I miss Adele in her virgin state, before I'd ever heard her, in that house in Berkeley where everything seemed possible and my 20s were starting anew at 30.

Hannah will love me that much if I don't fuck it up. But I still miss Kait today. Or, actually, I miss the person I was when I loved her.

The days of "someday I'll..." are over, aren't they? Someday I'll love someone enough, someday I'll forgive my mom, someday I'll feel special in the arms of a girl, someday I'll be happy.

Someday. That day is today, or it is never. Time is running out. Things don't get better any longer. It is no longer a question of progression and growth, it is question of trying, however hopelessly, to hold on to the remnants of whatever naivete I can still remember. Of hope. Of physicality, of athleticism, of pride, of external appeal and beauty.

It is all going away.

Or it is already gone.

I am sad today. I have grown all this much, become this much more mellow, more patient, and more chill.

And yet, I have learned nothing.

I am still angry. I still hate. All the women I haven't fucked, all the girls who don't appreciate, all the mothers who don't love, all the boys who don't respect, all the attorneys who are, well, just asshole attorneys.

I hate you all.

I hate myself, a little, for hating you, because I should be a better man than that. Trite, yes. Spent. But I still do. Hate, that is.

Someday... sigh.

Someday is today. I was supposed to have it figured out by now. I was supposed to be a better man, to be a happier man.

I was supposed to love more, and hate less. I was supposed to have good relationships with my siblings and cousins, love my mother, and have a chick with whom I felt whole.

Pieces, I have. But holistically happy? A better person? A better man?

Proud of who I have become? Proud of... anything?

:-(

Maybe next year.

Girlfriend

I have one. We;ve been dating a month.

I'm writing this on her laptop, sitting on her bedroom floor, while she sleeps a few feet away.

She makes me crazy. I feel stressed out about her almost all of the time.

That's bad.

But I like her a lot. That's good.

There are some fundamental differences in how we look at the world. She thinks being friends with exes is a goal; I think it's deplorable. She rarely feels intimate during sex; I feel intimate during, after, and because of sex. She has more guy friends than I do; I have no girlfriends except for her and my sister.

She's a city chick. I will never love San Francisco. Not now, not ever.

It feels insurmountable, writing it down, now, alone in the dark even as she's in the room. It feels like I should go back to barely makin' it.

I love her. I haven't told her, because I don't think she loves me back. And as I write this, a part of me wonders if she can. Maybe that's what I'm feeling -- that lack of intimacy I yearn for with her may run deep.

I'm very confused.

Gravity just spun up on iTunes

Another weekend of work after an all-nighter a couple of days ago.

I'm punchy, and tired, and the matrix output slowly flowing past on my screen is literally starting to get blurry.

And Sara pops up on rotation.

I paused, quietly, and thought of faraway memories. Not because I'm tired and overworked, but because the passage of time has caused them to fade.

I'm trying to remember her smile. That first smile, the first time she said goodbye after the weekend she first said the 'L' word, in her pretty summer dress on that beautiful spring day.

I think I can see it... but I'm not really sure. I think I remember the image I was fighting to hold on to, not the actual memory. Like a photograph of a photograph... the second generation copy, with less clarity, more errors, and some detail simply gone.

I don't remember her eyes, anymore, for instance. Not from that day. Nor am I really sure what color her dress was... I have to steal that from another mental image and put it there because I "know" what is supposed to be in the image.

I don't remember her smell, I don't remember her taste, and I don't remember why it felt so good.

But I know I want to.

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Yeah. It sucks. I still miss her.

In another time, another place...

I've been hearing Brian Greene on various podcasts and radio programs recently. He must've had a book come out this past year or something.

He's a physicist of the theoretical kind, pondering string theory, quantum mechanics, and popularizing the theory of the multiverse... that thing that has been out there for quite some time as an idea, but is apparently growing in mindshare, because it's not just in science fiction any more.

Another time, another place, another life. Another me. It is all so very alluring, because it grants us the fantasy that we could have made different choices.

And, for me at least, that they could have made different choices, too.

You combine a couple of pitchers of beer (shared, don't worry), a Friday night, a little too long on facebook looking up ex-girlfriends and even ex-flings, adding to the master list (yes, I have a spreadsheet, and after this past month I had officially lost count...), and wondering about the still-friends and the used-to-be friends, and...

We have Brian Greene.

It is all so very amusing in its self-inflicted sardonicism.

Oooh, that word was too long and atypical. Chrome doesn't recognize it as a word. Well, fuck you, google. You aren't omnipotent yet. Just omnipresent. There's a difference.

 So... yeah. I'm left wondering about the choices that weren't so very different that would have put Serino and I with Danielle and Lauren as next door neighbors, babysitting Frank's kids as we talk about the good times back in Austin. Or the seemingly little choices that would have Mel and I painting walls together next weekend even though I wouldn't really want to. Or, for that matter, the random flukes of chance that didn't land me married shotgun style to any one of (guh) dozens of pretty and kinda pretty girls.

I could've ended up married and miserable just as easily as I could've ended up married and grateful.

None of those choices were really all that harsh, nor terribly "deep" at the time. Nobody faced a court martial or jail time or knew they missed out on marrying Brad Pitt or Mila Kunis. Nobody got hurt... often at all, but surely, at least, not permanently.

(wince)

Ok, some of us got hurt. By some of them. But I digress. Read the archives.

But we were all so close. In a universe so vast as Brian Greene paints it, where everything that could happen probably did, where even the fantastic breadth of what makes us "human" or even "unique" is but a random, but finite, occurrence on a scale so vast that every atom in my body is surely exactly duplicated a quadrillion light years from here on a planet just like ours with a bona fide twin in every possible way...

Sigh. I could have married Texas Lauren. Or Mel or Kim or... any of them. And we could have made it. Loved it. Lived it.

There exists a world, out there, where all of those great things happened and are happening and will happen. There exists a place where someone more like me than, well, me exists and is not blogging right now, not drunk right now, not enjoying a nice Napa cabernet. He has a clingy girl that wants to be a girlfriend and finds it refreshing, not disturbing, as I do. He misses his Mel and his Kim and his Amanda, yet hates his Laura less and loves the world a little more.

Those billions of other MEs out there aren't better or worse, though. They aren't anything. They are merely the end result of the sheer breadth of the cosmos.

Maybe I just found god.